I know for a fact that he’s straight now because when we interact, we don’t delve upon those days of mutual gratification. However, today, my childhood friend is married and has a wife and kid of his own, and he even had a great pre-Covid wedding party. While it was mostly me on the giving end of it, I thought of it as early target practice, since today I am as gay as Easter Sunday. A year later, the jerk-off sessions turned into handjobs, making out, and blowjobs. We obviously didn’t think too much about it. So that’s what we did for almost two years. His mom would be out for work and his younger siblings would still be at school. There, at the age of 14, we would freefall into the murky backalleys of early 2000s internet pornography - the sorts that even after you shut the browser, a pop-up of a woman moaning kept returning on the desktop.īefore we got shunned from the local cyber cafes, we would take our half-hour surfing period to look at images of pink penises and vaginas and excitedly head to my friend’s place after to masturbate together. That doesn't necessarily mean you want to have sex with a man.īut if you do find that you really are truly sexually attracted to men that is wonderful and normal too and you should feel no shame.One of my earliest experiences was chilling with my childhood buddy, playing video games, banging hot wheels into each other, and borrowing 10 rupees from our parents to go surfing at a cyber cafe. It also could be that you and your body are confusing aesthetic attraction for sexual. So gay porn could get you sexually excited, but that doesn't necessarily mean that a real life sexual interaction with a man would do the same. Basically it is the sex itself that attracts you, not the people involved. It could just be the situational aspect of gay porn that attracts you. So in this case in terms of relationships you could very well be straight.
There are others still who do not have linked attraction but misconstrue one form of attraction for another because they have never been exposed to the split attraction model and have otherwise been conditioned to see all forms of attraction as sexual. You can appreciate the physical form of someone's body but not be attracted sexually or romantically (a good example of this comes in the form of straight people's visual preferences in their same sex friends or celebrities).įor a lot of people these forms of attraction are all intrinsically linked. There also are aromantic people who are not attracted to people romantically.
For example many asexuals (those who are not sexually attracted to any person) still want romantic relationships and are therefore attracted to people romantically. I would definitely research the split attraction model. Even if you are lowkey bisexual you could still have a strong preference for women, and the straight label would still apply to you if you choose to self-identify as such.īut if you really want to explore your sexuality deeper and if this means you are "straight" or "gay" or "something else".
At the end of the day sexuality is a spectrum. Do you consider yourself straight and do you feel using the label best describes you as a person? If so then, yes you are straight. However it can also boil down to a simple question and answer.
Because sexuality is complex and full of conflicts between intrinsic identity and social sexual/gender norms. Yes you could be gay, but you also could be straight.